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Why are some Christians reluctant to make a commitment to mentoring a new believer?

August 14 2020 By
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Consider these five reasons as common “excuses:”

  1. I don’t feel adequate
  2. That’s not my gift. Discipling is not my spiritual gift.
  3. I don’t have enough Biblical understanding. I just don’t have the biblical knowledge that I think I need to disciple another believer.
  4. I don’t want to be a hypocrite. I’m concerned that my life Monday to Saturday is not in alignment with the way I behave on Sundays.
  5. I’m too busy and over committed; I just don’t have the time to disciple another believer.

These reasons and other excuses are usually based on my appraisal of my personal capabilities, rather than faith in God's capabilities. In other words, I don't see myself as being able to mentor another person and I'm not going to give God an opportunity to work through me to do that.

Consider this analogy;

How many parents would have had kids if they had waited until they felt their parenting skills were adequate? I know this is a silly question, as most parents would typically raise their hand and say, “Yes we didn't feel qualified because we had no parenting skills. But we were able to figure it out by seeking out resources, reading materials, asking other parents and other mentors the best way to deal with given situations with our children.” And of course, most parents would love to become great-grandparents. And it is the same in the spiritual realm. The best feeling a spiritual mentor can have is to become a spiritual great-grandparent.

Here's a prayerful question. Have any of the reasons not to disciple listed above, affected your willingness to mentor another believer either in the past or the present?

If yes, then here are some next steps.

Step #1: Prayerfully discern which faithful man or women in your spiritual sphere of influence already has a propensity to invest in the lives of others. Share your passion with them and asked them to consider equipping you to mentor others.

Step #2: With that person, go through Phase 2 “Mentor Training” in The Tool For Personal Discipleship, located here. This will provide you with training and answer questions about the how-to of discipling another believer.

Step #3. After Phase 2 is completed (between 1-3 months) begin Phase 1, Understanding the Christian Life with your mentor. Click here for Phase 1. These 16 lessons are designed to stimulate conversation between the mentor and their mentee. Please note that this material in NOT written as a textbook and not intended to be academic in nature. They are to be used to stimulate conversations to help the mentee understand the principles that are needed in order to live the victorious Christian life.

All through this process seek guidance from the Holy Spirit as to whom He wants you to spiritually mentor. Keep in mind that newer believers are typically spiritually hungry and tend to make the best mentees. But it's important that you seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit as He prepares the person or persons that He wants you to invest in.

Continue to reach out to us at DTI by taking advantage of the Mentor Training tools that we provide located here and email us with any questions you might have.

We pray that these tools will help you as you seek to fulfill Jesus’ Great Commission to “go and make disciples”.

Check out this video that discusses this topic.


Last modified on Friday, 14 August 2020 06:39

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